Lessons from the Period of Singleness
Lessons from Singlehood
Being Single is a complete learning
season in the life of a man. It comes as a gift and must be lived to its
fullest. This is why it follows extreme wisdom to handle properly, what
singlehood entails.
One basic lesson learnt in single hood is
the knowledge that you must walk into God’s plan and be ordered into
what He’s ordained for you. The season must be maximised because when it
wraps up, no one can turn back the hands of time. Enjoy it while it
lasts. There’s a time to be single and a time to be married.
Before
you say, “I do” Understand that as a lady, you’re first the BRIDE OF
CHRIST before you’ll become the WIFE OF A MAN. Isaiah 54:5 same for the
guys. When the Scriptures admonish us to LOVE GOD…it is enough to make
us have good relationships, in loving God you will fall in love with
yourself, and only then can you love people as you should. The Holy
Spirit gives us the capacity for divine love.
Before you say, “I
do” Learn to be whole and secure. Sweethearts, you’re not defined by
your marital status. Your life doesn’t start or begins the very day you
start a relationship or get married, it has started since yesterday when
you had your first cry. So hope for love, pray for love, wish for love,
dream for love, but never dare put your life on hold for love. Your
identity is not found in your relationship status but who you are in
Christ Jesus.
Before you say, “I do” find true happiness in your
life. Don’t wait for a mate to make you happy. Of course, two is better
than one and your partner must be such a shoulder to lean on yet you
must be a happy somebody. I shared with our married daughters that no
husband can fulfill the ministry of the Holy Spirit in our lives. You
must learn to be happy. Happiness is said to be a choice, this is the
pathway to fulfillment in life and marriage.
Before you say, “I do” learn to build and enjoy friendship with your immediate family, friends, and neighbours.
A
romantic relationship is not the only relationship you need in life. We
are social beings, learn how to relate, and tolerate people. Social
intelligence is very important. I watched a very hot-tempered lady
fighting her little sister with harmful objects. In annoyance, she left
for her fiance’s house and said angrily, “When am I leaving my Father’s
house?” #smiling She thought getting married is a way of escape.
Before
you say, “I do” Find a meaning to your life and get busy with it.
Explore your talents and gifts, go after your interest and passion. What
should you start doing? Stop delaying/postponing it. I dare you to
start being a blessing to lives.
Before you say, “I do” God
wants you to learn SELF-CONTROL. I know what it means to have urged as a
single lady sometimes it gets so tense I had to pray in tongues. Why
would God put this urge in my body when I am not allowed to have sex
before marriage? It is to teach us self control. I and my husband have
had times on the mission field where we couldn’t act husband_and_wife
for a Month. #NoShow and we were good. Train your body.
More so, marriage doesn’t solve all your sexual issues/problems, please seek counsel and get healed before tying the knot.
Before
you say, I do” embrace a mentorship relationship and be accountable to
people who have spiritual authority over you. My husband was having
counselling sessions with a married woman who reported how unruly her
husband has been. Hubby asked her to report him to his parents, pastor
or mentor to which she replied, “He doesn’t listen to ANYBODY and he has
no mentor”
Who is your Father?
Prayerfully submit to a mentor.
Build quality Relationships… Family, friends, etc
Before
you say, “I do” learn financial prudence. Who wants to marry a man who
gambles with money? Who wants to marry a lady whose life investment is
in a shopping spree?
Give yourself a nice treat but learn how to
manage your finance. You’re not too old to have a piggy bank, savings,
and investment schemes. Start learning how to draw a scale of
preference/priority. Cut down unreasonable spendings.
Before you
say, I do” understand that your marriage is all about the KINGDOM. Your
marriage is ordained to be a blessing. There’s a lot God will achieve
through the union of two people who are sold out to His Kingdom. God
wants to model a GODLY MARRIAGE to the world, He needs your marriage as a
Model. Be purposeful about your relationships.
Great write up and topic...most people don't know themselves in a relationship or even know what to expect out of a relationship. One must know what they want or be open minded in the relationship without compromising themselves. A person should do what feels right to them, rather than trying to live up to a standard they've had in their mind of heard about
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Knowing who you are and standing for it
Beautiful piece.
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DeleteOh wow.... I love the fact that I'm an inspiration behind this right up.. this communicates every of my feelings .. you did Justice to every of the sentences made..I can't be more impressed.. Weldone dearyy. This is an amazing piece.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for being an inspiration on this post Bella
DeleteSuch an insightful piece. Keep it up Cat!
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DeleteNice piece hon, very insightful, keep it up
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DeleteThis is very apt. Singleness is being in a relationship with oneself. Self discovery,goals and aspirations. This is a period for personal development that helps shapes our decisions in life. Good one!
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