10 Major Prayers To Pray While Waiting

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Here is a compilation of ten major prayer points 

5 Ways to Get Over a Breakup Season

A breakup is simply the failure of a relationship. On the surface, breakups are initiated by either parties in the relationship.

Effects of Breakup?

Depression Sadness

• Emotional Damage: This is a situation where one experiences terrifying memory flashes, nightmares, or flashbacks about a relationship that did not work. It could also cause the affected person to absolutely abstain from and avoid the things that could remind them of that trauma. Also, it could lead to emotional numbness and disconnect from others or even going into another relationship. This is why some individuals suddenly start taking alcohol or drugs in other to feel better or overcome the trauma.
• Depression: This is a group of conditions associated with the elevation or lowering of a person's mood, such as depression or bipolar disorder.
• Sadness: Feeling down or unhappy in response to grief, discouragement or disappointment; if ongoing, may indicate depression.
• Mental Disorder: A wide range of conditions that affect mood, thinking and behaviour. A mental health disorder characterised by persistently depressed mood or loss of interest in activities, causing significant impairment in daily life. A mental health disorder characterised by feelings of worry, anxiety or fear that are strong enough to interfere with one's daily activities. the heart is a metaphor for the intense emotional stress or pain one feels at experiencing great and deep longing. Explicitly it is unexpected sad news from one of the partners that the relationship seems not to interest anymore. And the intention of every break up is to always bring the relationship to an end as the name implies.
  

Now since the relationship that was initially sweet, has crashed, what next, should I stay single for the rest of my life? Should I because I was hurt not go into another relationship?

Is looking for a replacement the next thing? All these are what I will be digging deep in this evening seminar being the aim of the theme after my break up.

How then can you get over a breakup?

Three things needed after a break up are:

1. Discover your weaknesses

No one on earth is too perfect not to have his or her lapses. That's why we are human beings and not God. Every one of us has our weakness no matter how little it is. But we keep working on it to gain strength.

I will like to tell us a few of male and female weakness and both gender weaknesses too in this seminar

MALE WEAKNESSES

1) Too much ego

2) Being bossy

3) Misinterpretation of women emotional expression as emotional blackmail.

4) Lack of patience

FEMALE WEAKNESSES

1) Lack of understanding

2) Self-centeredness

3) Greed

4) Lack of endurance

5) Ladies are too dependant

6) Lack of appreciation

 

2. Emotional healing.

3. Maturity work out

 

 

 

 

 

 

Being bossy: Pride and lack of consideration is the main cause of this. A bossy man would always impose all his opinions on his woman. This act of being too bossy makes your woman looks like a slave to the relationship. It is normal and a good thing for a man to lead but not to command. So if you want to be a good man erase every mentality of commanding your wife. By so doing you have subjected her to slavery and not a relationship. So lead your relationship and let your woman follow the lead. And someone would ask me that but a leader is meant to command yes but a good leader only gives order and does not force it.
MISINTERPRETATION OF WOMEN EXPRESSION AS EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL: Most men end up taking women painful expression especially the cry of a woman as deceit. Women naturally are weak and easily get pained when being hurt. That is when you see the emotional ones among women crying while being hurt by anyone.

LACK OF PATIENCE: Most men are the victim of this. The word patience simply means The content to wait if necessary; not losing one's temper while waiting; not bothered with having to wait; not unwilling to wait. This is so much applicable to when most guys are trying to ask a lady's hand in the relationship. From my own experience most time whenever guys ask me out, I discovered they always like fast response which has a lot of danger in it. Most guys stop to talk to ladies the moment the lady says let's be a friend first. I recommend one of my seminars to people of that category: RECOMMENDED PREREQUISITE FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE. Unless if the intended relationship is based on just a fling.FEMALE WEAKNESSES

LACK OF UNDERSTANDING: Most ladies have a shallow understanding of life, how to spice up their relationship, even lack the understanding of their man, which has killed the vibes in most relationship today.
One of the lack of understanding some still lack is to assume that the only and best way to spice up a relationship is with sex and romance. Understanding how to relate and interact with your man is one of the things that keeps your relationship alive and not dead or a dormant one.
Some ladies also lack to understand that men cannot always be financially buoyant. Some ladies even go to the length of comparing her relationship with her life cycle to her friend's own due to the lack of understanding.
Some ladies do not know when their man is happy and unhappy. Some refuse to understand and know when to talk and keep quite. Some don't understand when to ask questions and when to give responses.
How can one win a lady's heart?
1) Be her best friend
2) Know what makes her happy, do it for her
3) Know what makes her angry always try to avoid it
4) Ask her on a neutral ground does she like your type of person.
5) Find out her taste, are you her taste?
6) Does she like your personality?

Most ladies heart is soft and can easily be gotten through care, consistency and shower of gifts but not all. Many fall for all these strategies but few would not fall for it especially if such ladies know what they want.

Note that; It is not every lady's heart a man can win. Some lady's heart is broken, some are accessible, some are fragile, while some are rigid. And each heart with a different strategic measure to win it.

Mr Segun said I broke up with my girlfriend because she lies a lot to me. What can I do to make such a relationship work again he asked? A liar is a liar. A liar would always use thousands of lies to cover a lie so obviously, you cannot change a liar. Only if you can put her matter in prayer. Note that any relationship that the foundation is built on a lie, such a relationship is liable to failure. That is; it is the same lie that would collapse, or destroy such a relationship. There is one of my quotes that says; Lie is not durable, but can only sustain the truth for a while. The only truth is constant, real, and straight.

I was in a seminar on a faithful day a young guy asked me that; Why would a  relationship that was so vibrant with love and cosy feelings suddenly become very boring and dry?

What are some of the factors responsible for it?

The start of a relationship with what you both cannot finish. Most especially starting your relationship journey with a life of impression and deceit. Promising what you cannot afford. The danger in it is that that kind of person you claimed to be might be the kind of person he/she wanted or looking for. The moment whereby there is a sudden change, he/she finds no more in you, the person was attracted to. From that moment of change, the chain of love and affection would break gradually. And the love starts to deteriorate and depreciate.

Another gentleman asked another question that does negative influence, brainstorming, and brainwashing ideas, has anything to do with understanding and patient in a relationship?

Yes, it does sir. Negative influence is not ss, the negative influence is not good for a relationship. For a matured relationship you both should be inclined and influence each other positively, and not otherwise.

Then for brainstorming requires a lot of patience to achieve something good in a relationship.

Welcoming each other's suggestion and the idea is also part of understanding. You don't have to look down on each other. An adage says; two heads are better than one. So you both are meant to rub minds together, to think together so you can both achieve a common goal together.

Then brainwashing each other's ideas is a way to control, persuade each other by thought control, thought reform, or away you both could always educate each other. This is where the enablement of flexibility comes in. In one of my quotes, I said; A rigid mind is hardened up like concrete, it does not accept other people's opinion. If either of the partners lacks patience it would always be hard to learn from each other.

SELF CENTEREDNESS: Most ladies are always wanting to be at the receiving ends, is as a result of self-centeredness.

Not putting your man in your shoe, in your plans, hanging all your burdens on him like Jesus Christ is an act of self-centeredness. An English definition of self-centeredness says: The quality of being selfish, the condition of putting one's interests before those of others

GREED: A selfish or excessive desire for more than is needed or deserved, especially of money, wealth, food, or other possessions from your man. As women deserve the best, so as men also deserve the best. A man deserves to be treated like King, so a woman deserves to be treated like a Queen. Treating, loving and caring for each other is never meant to be sentimental.

The third question in that same seminar was that; With the presence of sentiments and maladjustment could result in selfishness in a relationship. Can such a relationship be fruitful?

No maladjustment means a poor adjustment or faulty adjustment. And for every fruitful relationship, compromise and adjustment from one's policy to make things right are always needed. So when there is no compromise in a relationship, such relationship growth might end up being stagnant. The lack of adjustment instigates subsequent quarrel or misunderstanding.

LACK OF ENDURANCE: Most ladies don't want to work through hard times with men. Most want an already made man without considering his source of money if pure or shady. The lack of endurance is what would make a lady abandon his fiancee for a ritualist that showers her with presents like; expensive wears, Iphones, I watch and the likes. The lack of endurance would distract and detach her from the real man of focus and ambition. And covetousness would attract and attach her to a fake and desperate man, that has nothing good to offer her but to steal away a virtue.

A woman that is not patient to start, and build a future together with a man, does not deserve to be with a successful man. No sweat, no sweet. No man is entitled to reap from where he did not sow.

Hard times is the best period to test the endurance ability of a man or woman.

LADIES ARE TOO DEPENDANT: Very disappointing most ladies have turned guys to their ATM. They now put all their life responsibilities on the guy. It is not good for a lady to always depend on a guy.

LACK OF APPRECIATION: Some girls are never appreciating but always complaining. Those set of ladies find it so difficult to appreciate their man on what he has done for them. Instead, they give a complaint on what their man has not done for them. It is very bad and discouraging.

Another question came up that; How many days or months or years are you now saying a guy should wait for a lady's response? Well, there is no magic to any successful relationship aside from great patience. Be patient to be her friend. Long-term friendship is good before you proceed into any relationship. Trust me you have nothing to lose if you are friends for a long time first.

EMOTIONAL HEALING

Some people have been hurt and damaged emotionally. Human beings emotions can be hurt in diverse ways, they are; Disloyalty, violence, attentiveness e.t.c. the aforementioned are just a few of the ways human emotions can be messed with.

DISLOYALTY:

Disloyalty in terms of not being supportive, not being sincere, also not being honest in a particular relationship.

In many relationships we found ourselves, and we are being denied loyalty by our partners.

Some of our partners, we caught them cheating, which led to great disappointment in our heart. And as to this, such woman's heart turns our being poisoned that all men are womanizers.

VIOLENCE

Physical violence

Sexual Violence

One of the bad experience one had, is to be brutal physically. It is not only in marriage men beat women, physical violence also happens in a relationship. Most women have been adapted to hot slaps, since their relationship stage.

Some women also fall to the category that they are always been abused sexually. Some men even drug themselves before having sex with women.

All these acts cause pains to the emotion.

INATTENTIVENESS

People that their primary love language happens to be quality time needs more attention in the relationship. If such a person is being denied attention in such a relationship, it always results to be an unhealthy relationship.

By giving attention, you also care and create quality time for your relationship.

Using my kind, as an illustration, my primary love language is quality time. I cherish care and attention so much. The moment, I am being starved of attention, I automatically believe, I'm not being loved or wanted again. As to this, I get tired of such a relationship.

Haven't mentioned diverse ways people can be damaged emotionally, I would talk more about emotional healing now.

WHAT NEXT AFTER BREAK UP❓

Most people way of healing emotion is to go into another relationship after their heart is being broken in their previous relationship. The greatest of the wrong step most people take after break up is substitution.

Substitution by going into another relationship with the motive of the new lover, replacing the former lover, due to the relationship that didn't work.

Emotional healing is very important before one goes into another relationship.

One of the dangers in going into another relationship without being emotional healed is that; We act upon our past and use it to hurt the innocent. This also can cause a lack of trust.

REASONS WHY SOME RUSH INTO RELATIONSHIP AFTER BREAK UP

1) I cannot stay alone

2) Because my friends are in a relationship

3) I don't want my ex-lover to know I am still single.

If Everyday were Valentine

Valentine is upon us, tagging along with it the hype and burning flame of its heat one could hardly resist. As you know, it's one talked about day of the year.

With the incessant flow of adverts for Valentine packages, the ecstasy that comes with the display of affection and preparations made for the advancement of deepening intimacy, one might really need to cease a moment to pause and wonder... "What if everyday were Valentine?" - really why shouldn't everyday be?

Showing love to our partners or loved one(s) should be a daily action triggered towards adding tons of love to our love tank daily rather than an attempt to fill it all up at once! Why should we wait for the world acclaimed season of love when we could season each passing day with love?!

You know why we shouldn't? It would be of little or no effect where we attempt to gather all effort,waiting for a single day to shower our loved ones with gestures of love. Such an attempt would flush them with doubts as to the genuineness of your proclaimed love rather than prove it.

Trust me, inasmuch as we have been all wired with the need to feel loved and accepted, no body wants it fake (we have enough of sycophants around us offering fake love and we try hard to get away from them!) what we all need is love that feels GENUINE and AUTHENTIC.

It's no gainsaying, if we truly love someone, then everyday should be Valentine (did I catch you sniff) No brother/sister. I'm not asking you to drain your account each day just to prove your genuine love for your loved one.

Here's the take home point, plain and simple! Communication of True love is not in the outpouring of lavish gifts nor luxuries but in the seemingly little things that greatly matter. It's in affirming your love, care and acceptance through words, in intently listening, in the gift of quality time, in the intent gaze of admiration, in the hand made gifts specially customized, in acts of kindness, in the moments laughter and pain shared.

In the journey to becoming one let's take it upon us season each day with acts of love than dance to the tune of waiting for a set aside season of love. Be sure to do something to add to the love tank of your loved one tomorrow, the day after tomorrow and just let that cycle continue!

Let your world's burst forth with every shade and colour there is to the expression of true love. We would love to see the reflection here.

Till then!

Yusuf Faith.

What does the Bible say about age differences in relationships?

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What does the Bible say about age differences in relationships?

If you do a Bible search for the phrase age differences in relationships, you will find exactly 0 results. In fact, a person’s age is rarely mentioned in Scripture, and this holds true for married couples in the Bible. We just don’t know of couples’ age differences in the Bible.

Abraham and Sarah are the exception; we do know the age difference between those two. When God promised Abraham that he and Sarah would be the start of many nations, “Abraham fell facedown; he laughed and said to himself, ‘Will a son be born to a man a hundred years old? Will Sarah bear a child at the age of ninety?’” (Genesis 17:17). Based on Abraham’s mirthful questions, he and Sarah were ten years apart—not a huge age difference, but noteworthy. There are no other couples in the Bible where both individuals’ ages are given.

It is often assumed that Boaz was significantly older than Ruth. This is based on a passage in Ruth 3. When Ruth asks Boaz to be her kinsman-redeemer, Boaz replies, “The Lord bless you, my daughter. . . . You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor” (verse 10). The implication is that Ruth, rather than seeking a husband among those closer to her own age, either in Moab or in Israel, sought to follow Jewish custom and place herself under the protection of the more mature Boaz. The Jewish Mishnah sets Boaz’s age at 80 and Ruth’s at 40 (Ruth Rabbah 7:4; Ruth Zuta 4:13), but that’s pure speculation, since the Bible does not reveal the age difference between the two.

It’s also commonly thought that Joseph was significantly older than Mary. However, there is absolutely nothing in the Bible to indicate that.

Given the Bible’s silence on the issue, we can say that, in the end, age differences in relationships are not a major concern to God. Age can be important in a marriage, of course, but it is far less important than other issues such as salvation, spiritual maturity, compatibility, etc. As people get older, age differences mean less and less. Obviously, a 40-year-old marrying an 18-year-old will raise some eyebrows, but no one thinks twice about an 82-year-old marrying a 60-year-old.

The person we marry should be of the opposite gender (Genesis 2:21–25), and he or she should be a believer in Christ (2 Corinthians 6:14). And, of course, we should marry for the proper reasons (lust and greed being improper reasons). Beyond those guidelines, we have a certain amount of freedom concerning whom to marry. Age differences are a matter of consideration, and we should certainly ask for wisdom when the difference is great (James 1:5), but the Bible does not treat age differences as a moral or spiritual issue.

Who Should Say Sorry First in a Relationship?

Ever thought about why some issues get unsolved in a relationship- issues that could have been solved in a bit but lead to the ruin of the whole relationship. EGO! O yes, we all have egos, male and female, we do. There are times when we all feel like our partner doesn’t just understand. I mean, you are trying to state a point but he just doesn’t seem to get the point and this pisses you off. You try to make her see that you are right and she was wrong, that she made a very wrong assumption, but she is not even getting the point and this leads to feelings of anger, fear, resentment, jealousy, insecurity, and all other negative feelings.

Darling, all these happen as a result of ego. We all have to learn how to control our ego because if we leave it unchecked, it can cause tremendous turmoil in our relationship. I became so confused the day something as small as a greeting ruined a friend’s relationship. Of course, it couldn’t have been just a greeting, I mean what life does a greeting have in it to ruin a relationship of two years. So, it all started with a discussion of who is supposed to greet first when they meet, Tomiwa always greeted Kunle first when they meet, while Kunle feels like the guy in the relationship and just says a cool “hi, how are you?” it happened that Tomiwa got tired of the way she has to always run over to Kunle to greet him- he never greets her first, she feels like she is not valued. Then she decided to talk about it one night just 5 days before their second year together. Long story short, Kunle feels like he will be belittling himself to first greet his girl- she tries to make him see reasons he should consider doing it once in a while but he didn’t agree to any of those reasons. At last, the whole thing crashed, why? Kunle will never greet first and Tomiwa has decided to go on a greeting break. That became the end of their love story.

The moment you chose not to take responsibility for your mistakes, you have started opening doors for problems to creep into your relationship. Saying “sorry” means that you have chosen your relationship over your ego. Yet so many of us find it super hard to apologize and admit that we are at fault. Social psychologists have stated that an apology leads to forgiveness which can recover a spoiled relationship and may heal indignity. Apologizing is super essential because it helps to soothe all the frictions caused by a conflict in a relationship and build a connection between couples. When you apologize for your wrongs not only will peace reign but there will be an increase in the level of trust between you and your partner.

When you are sorry, mean it. “With every ounce of apology, there has to be ample sincerity.” Lolonyo (Nurturing Bliss).

“Deep regret goes further than just saying you are sorry. Deep regret says that if I could turn the clock back, and if I could do anything about it, I would have liked to have avoided it.” F.W. de Klerk.

 This is to say that when you apologize you do that by recognizing that you have wronged your partner and that you never had the intention of doing that. Be true about how you feel, what made you do what you did, and truly let them know that you will avoid situations like that in the future. For example, say “I am sorry I suddenly stopped replying to you last night, I didn’t mean to leave you on blue ticks, I fell asleep.” As much as you might want to think that sleeping off during a chat is just nature's call and not your fault, your apologizing will show that you didn’t mean to ignore the person. 

A lot of us just also want to say sorry passively while not taking responsibility for our actions. This is bad. It is only right to own up to one’s mistake and not try to be defensive about it.

The manner and timing are not only as important as sincerity but they should be carefully chosen. This will aid the way the apology goes and how it will be taken in by your partner. It is important to choose a time that both of you are free to talk and do well to also get rid of all distractions and make sure that your body language doesn’t speak something different from what you mean. But why the worry about how to sincerely apologize when the real thing is to figure out who is apologize

 first- it might just interest you to know that it would be as bad as not knowing who to apologize first if you don’t know how to apologize in the right way.

So, back to the question of who should go first. There is a need for us to know that in a relationship, there are times you have to make sacrifices and compromise just so that you can have peace in your relationship. There is no way to sugarcoat this, there are times when even when you are right about a particular situation, you just need to be a mature person and just apologize for peace to reign so that the atmosphere will be at ease and effective communication and understanding will take place. The truth is that it can be really hard to apologize for something that you didn’t do in the first place but when you look at the reason for you being together and you think about what truly is at stake, you will surely consider apologizing. Take Tomiwa and Kunle for example- in the process of telling Kunle that she doesn’t feel like she is valued or loved in the relationship, she might have yelled and nagged about it. The truth is Kunle might be at fault, but the moment Tomiwa noticed that things weren’t going well, she could have also admitted that she said somethings that are wrong and that could have wronged Kunle and apologized for them then think of the best way to put the whole situation out at that moment or later- she could have been the matured person. But they chose to not see through the whole situation.

In no way should this be a gender-sensitive matter- as long as you recognize that you need peace, go for it.

Conclusion

Never let your ego set in, be the bigger person. Save your relationship from avoidable stress.

Who should say sorry first? The more mature one should say sorry first.

Top 10 Restaurants in Ebonyi for Lovers this Valentines Day

Every year, lovers try to celebrate one another in different ways - one of which is spending quality time with each other. For one, lovers can spend quality time with each other over plates of food at a cozy, yet reasonably affordable restaurant. This is why I’m out article today, we have compiled a list of 10

1. Monded Restaurant

Launched in 2023, Monded Restaurant is located at Ezza Road, Abakaliki. Although in a small space, the restaurant features an ambience that’s suitable for lovers, friends and small family gatherings.

2. Chicken Republic

Of a truth, Chicken Republic is a long time restaurant business and while it may not be good taste for everyone, your budget may still afford you the opportunity to patronize them. For lovers this valentine who do not want to use a large budget but still intend to enjoy themselves to the fullest, you can consider visiting any Chicken Republic branch near you in Lagos State.

After "Falentine", What next?

The rhetorics of Funke Akindele popularly called Jenifa in dialect, and the rough but funny choice of words employed has carved an empire in our society for her. As it is, many individuals have caught the infection with the popular "How is you?", amongst others, taking it's toll on them.

It is her intellectual subscription that has resulted in the "Happy Falentine" episode. One that largely supports the boy-girl relationship over other means of showing love to individuals in society.

History covers the 14th of February to be a sacred day to show love and be loved. Cutting across diverse definitions of what love could mean and tapping from various intellectual subscriptions, (running through the pastor, the imam, the couple, the aged, the boyfriend, the atheist, the philosoper and an endless list) love has come to show herself as a varying factor, unified by the actions of persons.

Love Image (Source-Internet)

The much celebrated February 14th has come and gone. One thing is noted that it forever remains a date on the calendar like every other day. How special we address each day depends on the tangible event accrued to that day. We celebrate birthdays, wedding anniversaries, rememberance and memorial dates but what's up with Valentine?

The popular question comes to heart:

"Should we celebrate Love on the 14th alone and hate ourselves the rest of the year?"

I believe there is no specific season for love and none that can couch it. As such, there should be no specific day for it. As the days go bye, we find causes to express love to the old man on the street, the poor beggar with twin children, the slim sick lady, the hale man and even, the mad.

A sweep at the dailies leaves us updated with news of local and international terrorism, killings and hurt to the next human. It covers racism, discrimination and everything that involves the word "Hate"


A reference to George Orwell's "1984" leaves us with the issues of opposition, a reversal of order and so the question lies in "WHY SHOULD LOVE HATE?"

The issue of love should be a uniquitous remedy, healing our wounds, softening our sores. Let every day preach true love in our society.

Beyond the confines of a boy-girl relationship (as our society craves), love lives.

Beyond the cores of pretence and vanity, let love live, everyday.




With Love,
Nelson and Adeola

Have a splendid valentine! Share and Love!

Your Relationship and 2026: Our 2026 Love Letter

Dear Reader,

 

If you ask me, I want this year to be full of adventures and challenges because by your side I feel super capable of anything, you are the muse that motivates my great works you give me so much strength to fight for my dreams you are everything to me.

How are you in this year 2026? How have the past five days been for you? I hope it has been good and I hope to hear from you. 

Before I move too far let me say that I cannot quantify how grateful I am to you for making 2020 a great year. It would not have been that good if you didn't come through -  reading our content and dropping your engaging comments. Each time it remind us of how valuable you are and we just need you to know that your opinions of very valid in this community. We always look forward to hearing all that you have to share with us. I would be glad to know those relationship topics that you would want us to talk about on the community blog and all our social media pages.

If this is your first time in the community, welcome, I am glad to have you here and I hope you always find a family here in the community.

This year I would love to pour out my heart to you all of the time, to let you know what exactly fuels this passion that I have for talking and building Godly relationships. It would be of great help to me if you take a few minutes, just about a couple of minutes to subscribe to the community blog page by hitting the subscribe button and follow the community both on Twitter and Instagram @lolonyonb. 

Your feedback means the world to me please keep it coming this year- let's do you! let to us! Let's show the world that love is truly beautiful and here is where we nurture the bliss of love- Lolonyo (Nurturing Bliss)

Lastly, my first relationship advice to you this year is to make sure that in all your relationships both romantic and unromantic, you always find a way to calm down and communicate effectively. Let's us all cut some slack, times will come when that person you love or trust so well will wrong you, times when you will feel betrayed and hurt (it won't be all fun throughout the remaining 330 days of this year) but please do not let your ego set in to make worse what a simple conversation would have solved, seek peace and understanding always. Above all seek love, just calm down and discuss it with all sincerity. 

Albeit, you would love to solve all those problems and pretend that those occasions that angered you never came into play- you should also not close your eyes to the red flags. Hold yourself in high esteem (you deserve to be happy always) and be true to yourself and all those around you. Do to others what you want them to do to you. 

We hope to read from you soon.

Enjoy the rest of your year!