Before You Think Relationship
The theme of the conference was Redefining Purpose.
Then I thought to myself why would I let this go without sharing it with you? So, here we are. Just as the title of this post is, the topic of our new series is Before You Think Relationship.
It is true that a lot of people jump in and out of relationships without taking time to ask the question, “Am I Truly Ready For This?” Because of this single act of not asking or taking their time to check if they are ready, they go through so much hurt, stress and pain. Because you are a member of this community you have a head over them because you will know the important things to do and think about it before thinking relationship and if you have made that mistake before the last one you made will surely be the end of it- only if you follow these simple steps that we would be sharing here for the next four to five weeks.
Moving down to today's point:
Before You Think Relationship, Think God.
Yes! you have to always think God because He is the core of our being and we are nothing without him. However, you need to know that it is impossible to build a sustainable relationship without God. With this knowledge we can agree that without God there is no strong and successful relationship.
The truth is that we have to learn how to love and receive love from God before we can successfully love someone else. The scripture mandates us in Mathew 22: 39that “we should love our neighbor as ourselves” and the scripture also states the qualities of love in 1st Corinthians 13: 4-7. When you learn all these qualities of love as was stated in 1st Corinthians 13: 4-7 in your relationship with God, you will be able to pour yourself into loving your partner.
Albeit, you want to have a fun relationship you should always have it in your mind that the standard of your relationship should be nothing less than the expression of God’s glory. If you are able to think of love and relationship in the view of God’s relationship with us you will be a step further to knowing if you are truly ready for a relationship. I can’t wait to chat with you again next week. I love you, and remember. (Lolonyo) Love Is Beautiful.
Last week we started a series on 'what to think before you think relationship' and today, we will move to the second section of the series. Last week, we spoke about building a relationship with God first; before thinking about entering into a relationship as one of the essentials to carry out. A built relationship with God, will help you be able to build better relationships with your future partner and everyone around you.
This week before you think relationship, think purpose.
No human is a result of excess clay, we are all on the planet earth to fulfill a certain purpose and if the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. You were created by God to be a coworker with him, to do different assignments per time, and to finally fulfil the big purpose. Purpose on the other hand is a compilation of assignments in different seasons. There is a need to know your purpose on earth before you think of getting into a relationship and trust me, the understanding of this will bring you peace; because you will be able to know who you are suppose to be in a relationship with (not only that), you will be able to positon yourself in order to receive the right set of people into your life.
I know 'this all unending discussion of purpose' might sound cliché, it still remains the truth. A knowledge of your purpose will help you to know how to live your life and the kind of people you should work and walk with in your life. The person you choose to spend the rest of your life with or to go into a relationship with has the power to help you fulfil your life purpose. That person will be there to spur you on and help you achieve more goals over time.
If you are a person that takes personal growth serious, going into a relationship with someone of like mind will ignite more fire between you. The both of you will always have things to talk about, you will have reasons to connect on a deeper level and you will never run out of things to discuss. On the other hand, lets say to a good level you know what assignments you need to be carrying out at a moment in your life; but you choose to walk with someone who does not even see life in such light (i.e. a slacker) as you do: the effect of that persons' thinking will definitely rub-off and influence your life negatively.
Supposedly. you don't even know what your assignments and purpose is at this time in your life, but you just want to jump into a relationship, that will be an unwise decision because you might just be setting yourself up for a lot of stress. Hence, it is good to think purpose before you think relationship, so you will be in a good relationship that would add good value to you.
Enough of this know purpose talk, how can you know this purpose of yours?
By knowing God!!!
YES! The knowledge of God will help you know your purpose because God has the manual to your life and he made you. This takes us back to last weeks post, think God and know purpose, then think relationship. You can build your relationship with God by getting to know Him more through the scriptures and always remember to speak to him consistently.
For the past two weeks we have been discussing “What to think before you think relationship” So far, we have been able to talk about two things to think about before thinking relationship: God and Purpose, to know more about them click Here and Here .
When you think God and think purpose the next thing you should think is You. Remember our gist about You? In case you have forgotten then Let's Talk About You
Before you think relationship you need to have a knowledge of who you are, know your personality, your temperament your likes and dislikes, you need to know how you are wired so that in choosing the one for you are able to choose right. In a relationship you need a partner that will compliment you and not compete with you. When you know yourself you will be able to know how to go on a journey of relationship with that person that would complement you instead of compete with you.
One of the ways to have a successful, purposeful and fulfilling relationship is to know yourself. A good knowledge of who you are will help you to recognize your needs and know how to communicate them to your partner. It would save your partner the need to figure you out or crack a puzzle about knowing you. It would rather come easier because you know how you want to be loved (love language) you know your strengths and weaknesses, what you like and dislike and when you properly communicate these things with the person you will be a step ahead of someone who doesn't even understand his or are self let alone be able to communicate their needs.
It is only true knowledge of yourself that you able to support your partner and your relationship well. So, Think You.
Part 4
Welcome again to another week on our community blog where we share great insight about how to be in a Godly relationship and how to be the best support system to your partner.
How on earth will I forget to ask you how you are doing. So, my darling how have you been? Really, talk to me I would love to hear from you.
We are gradually moving to the end of our series and I must say it has been great writing to you each week since the start of this series- Before you think relationship. We have discussed: Before you think relationship Think God, Think Purpose, think You and today is all about Thinking Your Partner.
I know you might be wondering what partners since you probably don’t have one yet and you are just looking to get a good one. You might even have but you just want to know more. You need to have it at the back of your mind that even before you finally get to meet that partner of yours, you must have a foresight of who he or she is. This is not a foresight into the physical features of the person you want i.e Not how tall or short, dark or light the person looks, not even how the person talks. But a deep insight into who the person is or will be. Let’s break this down the only way to truly have an insight into whose person is by building a relationship with God in prayer and meditation.
Note: Not all prayers you say now areally for the things you need now it happens most of the time that you are only speaking into your future.
When we talk about having an insight, it is about praying for that unknown partner of yours. Speaking into his or her being the kind of person you want him or her to be. When you pray to God about how you want the relationship of your future partner to be with Him (God), at the same time you pray about how you want is emotional and financial life to be (in line with God’s will for you), you are not only speaking into the life of that person wherever he or she is, you are also giving yourself a great insight as to what kind of person that partner is. When you finally see him or her you are truly able to know that you can give relationship a try with the person.
P. S: You might want to ask me; how do I know if what I am praying for is the right thing or person I need in my life. I am happy to tell you that we all have a spec. Yes, you might want to say you don’t but if you were asked there are attributes that a person will possess that will make you not want to enter a relationship with Him or Her, not because you hate the person but because the person will not help you in your life’s journey. I hope you get it now that you have a spec.
On the other hand, thinking your partner also means understanding that as humans of different sexes and genders, we are wired differently. So, before you think of a relationship try to understand that the person you will be in a relationship with is a totally different person from you.
Even though it has become a saying that all men are scum, you should know that there are still a lot of loyal and supportive men out there. It will only be safe for you to get rid of the way you think about men as a lady so that you won’t ruin a good relationship with your minds conditioning. Same goes for men, if you are found of thinking that all ladies love only men that have money you will have to reverse that mindset so that you will not lose something good ahead of you.
Understand that different genders are wired differently and so are different individuals. Have the right mindset and pray about the person then I will see you next week when we will move to the last part of our relationship gist. Before you think relationship, think your partner.
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